Accepting Others in Love

We must remember that the heart of a man is like a garden and we know that if there is a beautiful garden somewhere it means someone is constantly tending to it and keeping after it.  You cannot prevent the weed seeds from blowing in the wind and landing on the soil; you can keep them from taking root and overtaking the garden by keeping up after them.  The same is with a human heart.  We need to constantly monitor and check ourselves and determine what has landed in our heart and uproot it out if it is not based in the Word or on the Law of Love. 

According to the studies of human behavior people tend to hold on to the mistakes of others more than they do their own.  There is a human wide tendency to judge others as offenders and deserving of their own follies but when we make a mistake the response tends to be more like: well I didn’t know or it wasn’t really all my fault. 

Humans have a tendency to forgive themselves easily but are much slower to forgive or overlook the actions of others.  This is proven in human relational behavioral studies in how we communicate.  People who relate the best to others tend to view others in this forgiving frame of mind.  People who have been married for a life time when asked about how they view the other partner they tend to believe the best even if they are totally wrong.  Even if one person is completely wrong about the other in action or attitude: the key here is unassuming with a tendency toward mercy even if it is not fitting for the other person’s behaviors.  This goes in line with what the Bible talks about seeing the Brethren after the Spirit.  When we see others in the light of this understanding we also create an unspoken expectation in the relationship for them to measure up to these greater expectations; as a result we produce more meaningful relationships and bring the best out in others.